We Need To Talk About Chris Brown: A Quick Ramble On Accountability And Adulting Part 3

While the majority of us have forgiven Chris for what he did to Rihanna, the problem with him lies in the fact that he puts himself in the position to be ridiculed and judged. Team Breezy, you're his bosses - you deserve so much better!

The year is 2018. You’re scrolling through Twitter. After wading through SpongeBob memes, the yodeling Walmart kid, and that video of Bill Cosby contorting his body to the side, you suddenly see Chris Brown trending. I’m sure your first reaction is probably some variant of, “Oh, Lord. What has he done now?” Because when it comes to Chris Brown, it always seems to be something.

A few months ago, CB was dragged for insinuating that he should tour with Beyonce, Rihanna, and Bruno Mars:

This rustled some feathers in the Twittersphere for a few reasons, the top two being:

  1. Uh, you assaulted Rihanna nine years ago.
  2. You’re not even good enough to tour with these artists.

Like most, I’ve forgiven Chris Breezy for his 2009 domestic assault against then-girlfriend Rihanna. Was his behavior excusable? No, and it never will be. However, Chris made his apologies, paid his debts, and controversially patched things up with Ri; the two resumed their relationship in 2013 and even collaborated on songs like “Birthday Cake (Remix)” and “Nobody’s Business.”

While the majority of us have forgiven Chris for what he did to Rihanna, the problem with him lies in the fact that he puts himself in the position to be ridiculed and judged. He makes himself a target. The above tweet is a prime example. Who in their right mind would suggest touring with an ex they once assaulted? He was practically begging to be dragged.

After the Rihanna scandal, Chris fell down a rabbit-hole of legal and controversial predicaments, including (but not limited to) separate altercations with artists Drake and Frank Ocean, smashing a window at Good Morning America, throwing a rock through his mother’s car window, stalking ex Karrueche Tran and violating his restraining order, failed rehab attempts, and multiple arrests and short stints in jail. Just last week, news broke that a woman is suing him for allegedly being raped at his house.

After multiple “I promise I’ll never let y’all down again” speeches, Chris seemed to shift from being genuinely apologetic to taking on a “they just trying to keep a black man down” attitude. It doesn’t help that his stan base Team Breezy is right alongside him, cosigning everything he does as he runs through life like he has a Grand Theft Auto cheat code.

If you’re still reading, I’m sure you’re agreeing with Chris and Team Breezy by now. You’re going, “But, Jess! You should be supporting this black man! Yeah, he messed up. But he apologized! Plus, some of those things are allegations!  Why are people always going against Chris Brown?!”

Here’s the thing. I’m a huge advocate for accountability. You know that if you’re a reader of my work (check out parts 1 and 2 of my “Adulting and Accountability” series). Also, I believe in separating the art from the artist, a practice extended to all artists except R. Kelly. However, I will not support you if you cannot support yourself. I’ve reached that point with Chris Brown. Time’s up for making excuses for him and getting upset because people are being “mean” to him. No. This man is a whole father and nearly 30-years-old, not some 16-year-old kid in an after school mentoring program.

Chris has allowed himself to become a victim and it doesn’t help that he has so many enablers. The amount of people who still shamelessly support him by way of tweets and Instagram comments is embarrassing. “Yeah, he threatened to kill Karrueche, but…” and “Y’all still not over what he did to Rihanna?!” and “The world is always against Chris – just give him a break and let it go!” does not dismiss the fact that your fave is indeed trash and you should demand better from him!

I still believe in Chris Brown. I know you’re probably saying, “Girl, bye!,” but I truly do. I just want him to get the much needed help he clearly needs and stop using auto tune over watered down trap beats while making crass references to drinking, drugs, and a woman’s genitalia every other line of a song. There is no reason somebody as talented as him should stay in so much mess.

People may say that Chris Brown is not worthy of sharing a venue with Beyonce, Rihanna, and Bruno, but in all actuality, he is. I’m nobody’s publicist, but he just needs to see it for himself and start making appropriate adjustments and decisions. In turn, Team Breezy needs to stop enabling him, call him out on his bull, and put in an order for him to step it up. Team Breezy, you’re his bosses – you deserve so much better! And the gag is, Chris can give it to you! It’s time to start driving this Ferrari in the right direction.

X’s and O’s,


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